Q:when my boyfriend says "where do you want me to cum" i dont know what to say and how to sound sexy saying it.. especially since we always use condoms so its like kind of confusing o.O any advice?
So I guess two points I want to respond to here:
First, one of the sexiest things about a woman - at least to me - is her openness. When I feel that I am with a woman who is not afraid to show what she desires, everything she does is sexy to me. So instead of thinking “what should I say to sound sexy?”, don’t think at all and just say “what you feel”. This will be definitely 100% sexier than anything you believe you need or should say.
Second, sex talk is not about logic, it doesn’t have to be about facts. Learn to let go and live your fantasy and desires while having sex. When your boyfriend asks you “where do you want him to cum”, he is not expecting you to sit and talk with him about how to handle the condom issue, maybe he is not even expecting you to guide him where he will really cum. But what he usually means is “I want to hear where you would like my cum. I wonder how naughty you are and how much you want me and want my cum”. So next time you are having a shower, take some time for yourself, touch yourself as you fantasize about having unprotected sex with your boyfriend ( or anyone you desire. Fantasies have no limits ) and imagine that person you are having sex with is asking you the same question. What would you reply back? what would turn you on more? what would you want to try? When you know what you want, next time your boyfriend asks you the same. You will know what to answer :)
Note: In fantasies you can do anything and there are no consequences ( you might get a little sore if you were rubbing a little too hard, but it might be worth it ;) ) So you can fantasize about unprotected sex, strangers, orgies, whatever you like. In reality though, always play hard but play safe.
Happy fucking! :)
Q:Your dick is exquisite.
Can’t remember my dick was ever called “exquisite”. I am flattered. Thank you :)
When a guy sees a woman and goes to her to offer her drink, we call him, well, a “man”. When a woman does exactly the same, she is not just a “woman”. She is bold, aggressive, confident, cougar, slutty… etc.
I think the society, in general, raise women with the idea that it’s a feminine thing to wait, to be approached rather than approaching, to take the second step and never the first one. This pattern is our day to day life, not just sex. Paying for the drink and/or dinner, pulling the chair for her, opening the door, etc. All simple acts that always put the woman where she will be waiting for the man to take the lead.
I think they call a woman “aggressive” when she simply knows what she wants and goes for it.
I am generally dominant in bed but that doesn’t mean at all that I have a preference for “submissive” women. And I double-quoted it, because submissive in bed has nothing to do with being submissive as a person. I have been with very strong-willed women who were submissive in bed more than most.
So to sum up, I think whether aggressive or not, submissive or not, taking the lead or not… both men and women are all special and different in their own ways, And none should be described with any words that have negative connotation just because they were not part of the norms.
I consider myself polyamorous and it’s something that is hard to understand for many. It took me a long time to fully understanding myself. At first I saw myself as just another horny guy who can’t stop himself from wanting women, all of them. And I was seeing myself that way, not because I wanted “all women”, it was because I was comparing myself to the society where men and women grow up with the fact that the desire to be with ONE partner is what’s normal and accepted.
It was hard for me to accept the fact that I need, want and enjoy affection. That I can’t hold myself back and just force myself to direct all my feelings towards one single person. Now that I accept it and accept myself without having to live with guilt imposed by the society, I am happy, I know what I want and it’s easier for me to be clear with others about it up front, so no one will get hurt.
Polyamory is not about being greedy. Polyamory is not about sex. Even though sex is a good aspect of it, just like any sexual/intimate relationship.
Were you ever in a relationship and caught yourself enjoying a moment with another person who gave you butterflies and just wanted to let go and kiss them but you just kept holding back and repeating to yourself “I don’t cheat”?
Did you ever feel a strong feeling towards a friend that you couldn’t identify it whether it was just lust, love or just being really close to a friend?
If that’s the case, does it make you feel any better knowing that you are not alone?
Did you ever had a fantasy that…
Did you ever had a fantasy that would be considered by most as “dirty”, “kinky”, “perverted” and/or “forbidden”.. to the point that you find it hard to admit it to yourself even though it turns you on SO much?
I would like to hear them. We all have these and it’s always nice to let go and express it sometimes. I promise I won’t judge anyone based on fantasies.
(Note: I will keep all non-anonymous messages private unless you clearly mention that you want it to be shared. You can also use my email address which is in the “contact" page.)
Q:what do u think about incest? asking 4 a friend..
whether you are asking “for a friend” or not, that’s ok :)
I think you can read about what I think about incest in this post. If you still have more question. feel free to ask again.
to sum it up for you. I don’t think any for of sex should be considered wrong as long as it’s between two consenting adults where no one is hurt neither physically or emotionally. ( you can exclude the “hurt so good” kind of hurt out of the previous statement ;) )